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UNLESS SOMEONE LIKE YOU CARES A WHOLE AWFUL LOT, NOTHING IS GOING TO GET BETTER IT'S NOT - Dr. Seuss
The Key to Living a Joyful Fulfilling Life
Sounds like the kind of self help section where your attention is captivated, and then a sign in and pay option occurs. That's not this. This is free. It is based on science and psychology, not opinion. Check it out.
We have all heard of Anxiety and the Flight or Fight response. The sympathetic nervous system prepares the body for the “fight or flight” response during any potential danger. On the other hand, the parasympathetic nervous system inhibits the body from overworking and restores the body to a calm and composed state.
So we're a little stressed out perhaps? Maybe too much stimuli for our brains to cope? Aside from of course suggesting to Get Outdoors, Getting Connected to your Community Volunteering, we are also offering a means to Balance your Life, and see that being in a state of activation is not bad. When you have an anxiety attack, that feeling coursing through you is LIFE! If you choose to be positive that enormous energy within you could be your super power for Happiness and Success.
Background on its Creation and Necessity...
If you analyze your roles and responsibilities as parents, you will find that the main objective is to teach children how to be independent people that can be successful in caring for themselves, and hopefully one day a family. In a society of full time employment and responsibilities, it's difficult to even find that quality time to teach our children. That's if they're willing to give us their attention for long enough.
They need answers too. Right now they're being fed a constant stream of information that is in fact detrimental to our brains and shortens our attention span.
Your Attention Please?
This will be a fair amount of reading but I believe you're capable of holding your attention span here long enough to make it worth the betterment of yourself. If there was a magic pill that made people happy, it would be sold out. This is free. Totally worth your time,... its about you! What could be more important to you than your own existence right?
What Is Your Responsibility As A Parent?
I have the amazing privilege and responsibility of teaching 6 children. The oldest graduating soon and the youngest just beginning an education journey. That's 6 people being released upon the general public. I'm sure you would also agree, it's better if I took my responsibility seriously and taught them properly.
So I backed up to the basics of what my responsibilities as a parent were. If I knew the exact date my parenting would end, what would I want my children to know to take with them through their lives as a guide.
This is it.
Balance - That's the KEY!
It originally started as a balance pie chart I'd made studying psychology, for myself. I suffer from a lack of balance. I do believe unless someone puts great personal effort into being balanced, we are all naturally unbalanced. We seek that which we need it all the wrong ways.
We need connection and approval from our peers, so we turn on devices and feel the instant gratification of acceptance from someone half way around the world, while ignoring our very neighbors that sit beside us on the bus or in the store.
We need to feel attractive so we find the right angle and filter and love only that view of ourselves rather then working on the inner joy that makes our smiles radiate, exposing the truest and most beautiful version of ourselves!
We decide we don't like something before becoming fully informed, and turn that dislike into a dislike for the person and not the thing we ignorantly decided we don't like. People disconnect from the people around them.
Welcome to the Balance Point.
Personal effort will be required on your part and the only person who can do it is you. The majority of this is self reflection time. Yes I'm asking for your time please but I'm directing your thoughts.
Find a peaceful quiet place.
I like flowing water because it helps my mind not get stuck on thoughts that aren't productive or on topic. Just imagine those thoughts being on a leaf in the water and just flowing away. Might come back a few times but no matter what, the water keeps flowing. Find your quiet place to reflect though. This is about you.
Reminder! You are capable of anything! You can do anything! It has been proven throughout human history!
The question is,.. Can You Juggle?
Basic Categories of LIFE
Credit due to Maslow and other awesome psychologists working to help us understand ourselves better.
Responsibilities
Basic Responsibilities as a person are carried by all. Beyond the basics are up to you with how much you can divide your time to be balanced and still manage.
Basic - Manage all aspects of your basic responsibilities before adding to this list.
Additional Responsibility examples but not limited to,...
Pets
A Vehicle
Owning Vs Renting a Home
College/ University (?)
- Student Loans?
They are all your choices to be made in life at any point. Jump in at any age and grab the reigns of responsibility in your life. The stress relief will make you a happier person and extend your life.
Employment
As a teenager in British Columbia, employment is optional as we believe you should be focused on your education. However there is a mandatory minimum of 30 hours of paid, career preparation or volunteer community service as a graduation requirement for all BC secondary school students.
Whether paid or volunteer, work experience is a necessity as your resume will be your personal identification finding employment throughout life.
As an independent adult, the majority of us have realized employment is a necessity as without work there's no money and without that you are hungry and homeless. HUGE Life consequences.
Remember, earning money is not having m0ney as the majority of people in our society including the government is in debt. Don't give it away so easy, that money represents your time, your LIFE. Do your FINANCES!
Finances
Finances is reliant upon employment typically but not the same category. Hopefully you can always earn an income but that doesn't mean you'll have any money unless you manage it. Be Smart! Once again, that money represents your life and as far as we know you only get one.
BUDGET
Taxes
Saving & Budgeting
Emergency Fund
Bill Management
Retirement
Managing Debts
Building Credit
I am not a financial advisor but they're out there for you to connect with in a way that makes your lifestyle and goals possible
Self Care
Self care is of course a requirement, but sometimes we fail to find time for both our inner self and outer self. We can fully admit this category is sometimes out of balance. Women who use makeup and 'do' their hair typically spend an hour a day working on their outer selves so the world can see a version of you, but do you take that equal amount of time on your inner self?
Inner Self
Esteem needs - which Maslow classified into two categories: (i) esteem for oneself (dignity, achievement, mastery, independence) and (ii) the need to be accepted and valued by others (e.g., status, prestige).
Self-actualization needs - realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences. A desire “to become everything one is capable of becoming”(Maslow, 1987, p. 64).
Transcendence needs - A person is motivated by values which transcend beyond the personal self (e.g., mystical experiences and certain experiences with nature, aesthetic experiences, sexual experiences, service to others, the pursuit of science, religious faith, etc.).
Outer Self
Physical Exercise
Nutrition
Aesthetic Needs - Appreciation and search for beauty, balance, and form
It's amazing how much more time your inner self needs then your outer self.
Don't starve yourself. Give your body and mind what they both need.
Friendships
Good friends are wonderful additions to life as they also fill the need for
Love & Belongingness - friendship, intimacy, trust, and acceptance, receiving and giving affection and love. Affiliating, being part of a group (family, friends, work).
These are the people who are helping guide you through life, so make sure they're a good influence. You can either be built up by role models or torn down by drama. The choice is yours. This is also the basic building blocks to finding the love of your life. It has to have a solid foundation of friendship. If you want GOOD friends then BE a GOOD friend.
If you want to meet a certain kind of person, be the kind of person that person would want to spend time with.
It starts with you.
The only thing in your power is you.
What qualities do you admire?
List them.
Now instead of looking at this list as the potential friend quality list, this is your list of qualities to emulate. Not only will you love yourself you will attract like minded people.
Now that you know who you are you can start exploring what you like. Go through the activities and try something.
Get CONNECTED with local clubs and organizations!
Get CONNECTED with volunteering in your community.
A very admirable quality is giving of oneself. Self sacrificing. Helpful.
You'll meet really good people that care about the same things you do and do the same activities you do.
Get CONNECTED
How To Make Friends
Family
If you are blessed to have a family that loves you, Be Grateful! If life automatically selects the cards you are dealt, family is one of those random gamble cards. Whether you come from a good family, or would like to start your own one day, or are raising the one you currently have, family requires a time commitment. It is one of the most valuable ways to spend your time.
Responsibilities will vary, friends will come and go, employment and finances will change, but your family is consistently your family throughout your entire life.
Make time to help your parents, no matter your age.
Make time to ask your kids how their day was, no matter your age.
Make time for the people you love to grow healthy relationships.
Personal Growth
This is the best category in my opinion. This category also fills the needs of your Inner Self.
Being well rounded in life with skills and abilities feels amazing! It's the way you've chosen to develop yourself as a person. Can you speak other languages or have amazing talents? It's because you took the time to learn how. Never stop learning. Never stop growing.
Dreams
Achievements
Skills
Education
Hobbies
Sports
Talents
Contributions to your Community
Contributions to the World
Self Sustainability
What does that even mean?
The fate of the human race relies on this yet it's not often thought of as a common day to day goal. How much do you want to drain the planet of its resources and how much do you want to give back?
Educate yourself about Self Sustainability and the various innovative projects being done in your Community. You too can help make the changes necessary to ensure we leave a clean earth for future generations.
Gardening
Foraging
Cooking
Preserving Food
Energy Resources
Building / Repairing
“A society grows great when old men plant trees in whose shade they shall never sit.” — Greek Proverb
Be The BEST You,
you could possibly be!
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